"I will be happy once I find someone who loves me."
"I want someone to love me."
"I want someone to make me feel worth it and beautiful."
"I want someone down for me and only me."
I have been hearing this too much lately. It saddens me that people think they need to have someone to be happy. They think they will love themselves if someones appreciates and loves them. The truth is, if you do not love yourself, how are you going to love someone? We have become so brainwashed to thinking that we need someone in order to be happy. You need to love yourself first. If you think negatively of yourself, people will too. It saddens me to see close friends think that they need someone to make them happy. When my life went down in a spiral, I was so unhappy and thought to myself, "maybe if I find someone who actually treats me right and with respect, I will be happy." But that is not the right thing to think. God kept repeating the same lesson over and over again until I understood the message... I need to love myself again before I get in another relationship.
Nowadays, we all search for love when we are broken and lonely inside. The thing is, you should not search for love. Let love find you. Love will find your when God's timing is right, not when you want it to happen. You need to learn to love yourself first.
Look yourself in the mirror each day and say "I am beautiful. I am worth it." Keep saying it to yourself until you believe in. Wear clothes you love! Do not change your style for anyone. If today you want to wear an outfit that does not match, then so be it. You are in control of your life. Go places by yourself. Keep doing it until you experience peace in just sitting alone and enjoying yourself. Go to a coffee shop. Go to Panera. Go to the park. Take a walk. It is OK to do things alone. It is important to do things alone sometimes. Take risks.. say hi to that boy staring at you in the coffee shop. Get that tattoo that the old people keep saying you will regret someday. Do things out of your comfort zone. If you are not happy with your body, start working out. Do not make excuses. Go to the gym or take a walk or go for a run. Exercising makes you full of energy. Eat whatever you want! If you want to eat sushi everyday, that is OK. Do the things you are passionate about. If you love drawing, draw away. If you love community service, keep on helping out. Stop comparing yourself to others. What you been through is completely different to what someone else been through. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Embrace your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Let go of the past. Accept that apology you never got and forgive so you can move forward. Holding on to the past is toxic. The people who hurt you are not in your life for a reason. Allow yourself to laugh at yourself. If you trip, laugh. Smile more. Smile at others while you pass them. A smile can change someone's day in matter of a second. Stop being so judgmental. We all judge each other but it is not right to judge. Enjoy the little things in life... take a picture of the sunset, drive with the windows down, smile because someone noticed you got your haircut. Learn to accept the fact that people will talk no matter what you do in life. But your job is not to please them, it is to please you.
Please, learn to love yourself first and stop waiting and/or wanting for someone to love you. Let love find you..
